Most of the business as well as personal communication revolves around questioning and answering between two or more people, be it a business deal or just a casual gossip.
In most cases, question precedes the answer (except unsolicited suggestions:) ) because without the question, the answer is not required. So someone has to initiate with a question to start or continue the communication.
Most of the questions comes in ones mind out of curiosity or doubt. But immediately after asking that “question”, the ball is passed to the other person and make him responsible to answer. However if given a thought before asking, one will realize that the answer is common sense and you already know it but unfortunately this comes in mind after getting an answer from others. Sometimes people ask when they already know that the other person is also equally ignorant like them. But they ask to show their creativity of creating a question without making any effort to think of any possible answer. The same question could have been asked by other person before you, while he or she was thinking of a possible solution, instead of just making you responsible to answer.
The conversation gets in to a second loop when, to cover and maintain ones ego, question is followed by another question to pass the ball again (wasting more time). This is the reason why most of the meetings end up without any conclusion!
Can we say that questioning or answering are two different types of personality traits or attitude? I am convinced with this atleast to some extent.
Dividing the communication time in a fixed ratio between questioning and answering is not feasible because it all depends on the situations. But we should all try to spend more time in finding solutions or answers rather then just asking questions. Simply asking a question without much effort is also a disrespect to the other person. So if you can spend some time on finding a solution yourself, you will definitely add some value to the situation. This will also help you to reduce the dependencies on others and make you more confident. You may get different answers from different people which may also increase confusion.
I am not suggesting to stop thinking about questions because they are the basis of answers. And also it would be unfair with oneself to subside doubts within. Infact asking questions should be promoted among people around you especially among children and should be addressed with logical reasoning. This will go a long way to enhance their mental capacity and make them future ready.
Similarly, even for your spiritual quest, you should ask your inner self before approaching any guru or book.
You may find all the answers yourself!
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